“THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK, DON’T BE A DUMBASS”
It was a beautiful, hot, summer, day, the kind of day people from New England look forward to after a long, cold, harsh, winter. The desire for a delicious, iced, coffee, was screaming at me to fulfill its wishes, and so, I happily, obliged and quickly found the closest Dunkin’s. Now, seeing how hot it was outside, I was wearing a sleeveless, tee-shirt, that also exposed my neck. As I stood there, in line, patiently, waiting my turn to order, I hear the woman standing behind me, loudly, proclaim; “Jesus, that is one hell of a nasty, scar, you got there!”
Instantly, I knew she was referring to me and the horrid, scar, I have that extends from the top of my head, right down to the middle of my shoulder blades. You see . . . well, to make a long story short, I had three fractures in my neck, and other broken pieces in my upper spine, as well as in the middle and lower parts. Five years and ten major surgeries later, I now have a “bionic spinal column.” Anyway, to say that I am extremely self-conscious about it, would be quite the understatement.
Firstly, I was completely, blown away, that a total stranger could be so insensitive, as to draw attention to it. Secondly, in my head, I was thinking; “yes, dumbass, I am well-aware of that god-awful, gift I was given to treasure, which is a constant reminder of the absolute hell I suffered and the excruciating, pain, that came with it. While you’re at it lady, why don’t you just pour alcohol, over my open wound?”
Instead of causing a scene, I politely agreed that; “yes, it is a remarkable scar, isn’t it?” To make matters worse, I had also gained 65 pounds and the dumbass party continued when people I hadn’t seen in while made comments like; “wow, you’ve really put on a lot of weight, or boy did you get fat.” Noooooo, really? I hadn’t noticed you ignorant baffoon! These comments directed at me are not mine alone, because I know the same scenario plays out with other unfortunate souls too. Most recently, to someone I love and care for very much. Hey dumbasses, maybe you don’t think your words are hurtful or ignorant, but they are! There are “no excuses” for that type of behavior.
Didn’t your mama ever teach you that; “if you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all?” This is a good rule-of-thumb here, so memorize it! The next time you get the urge to make a harsh, dumbass, comment to someone, about any aspect of their appearance, try stuffing both your feet in your mouth and chewing them vigorously. Learn to “think before you speak!” Ask yourself one question; “would what I’m about to say, be hurtful or insensitive in any way, shape, or form to this person?” If your answer comes back; “yes,” then keep your big trap shut! “Don’t be a dumbass!”
Learn to worry about yourself and yourself, only. Unless you have something positive to say, then don’t say anything at all. You never know what might be going on in a person’s life, so keep your judgements to yourself. And that is my rant for today . . .
May you all have a peace-filled, blessed, day.
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