By now you should have a deeper understanding of how negativity has a direct impact on the ability to manifest your desires. Clearing out all negative thoughts and learned beliefs also includes forgiving others as well as forgiving yourself. Please let me explain the necessity of this action.
In order for you to obtain your desires through manifesting, you need to be at the top of your game. By having unresolved forgiveness issues you are holding onto some wicked heavy baggage. The more events and people that you choose not to forgive, the heavier the baggage becomes until it weighs you down so much that your focused thoughts won’t have a chance of getting off the ground. This isn’t healthy for you on so many levels and all it will do is create a wall of hurt so dense, so filled with anger and revenge that trying to break through it to free yourself will be very difficult. Not impossible, just more difficult.
I know what you’re thinking right now; “Why should I forgive so and so for what they did to me? They deserve to be punished, hurt and ridiculed for what they did or said to me.”
The vast majority of people think and feel that way for fear of falling victim to the same hurt again. That’s totally understandable, who wants to experience hurt over and over again? Most people view forgiveness as a sign of weakness, especially if real physical pain or injury was involved. This is a normal human reaction, but ask yourselves this:
“If I hold on to all these grudges and refuse to forgive, who becomes the true victim? Who is the person subconsciously being victimized every day? The answer would be . . . you!”
Not forgiving yourself or someone else takes so much damn negative energy on your part that it drains you emotionally and physically. Think about how much negative effort you must invest in yourself by holding onto grudges, it’s exhausting. There is nothing to be gained from holding onto grudges. By doing so, you significantly immerse yourself in such a negative lower energy vibration. Here’s a couple of examples of what I’m talking about.
Let’s say that twenty five years ago, your best friend at the time, called you pathetic and useless. Or how about; when you were growing up one of your parents was never there for you or they verbally or physically abused you. You vowed to never speak to that friend again and to this day can’t even hear that person’s name or think of them without dripping with hatred. As for that parent, you just can’t let go of what they did to you for so many years. It wasn’t fair, parents aren’t supposed to do that to their children, they’re supposed to protect you and be supportive. You’re still waiting for justice to be done to them and you’re still playing the part of the victim.
Let’s start with your so called best friend. Just think about how many years you’ve been dwelling on this. How much unnecessary anger have you created and given life to. For what reason? That friend has most likely forgotten everything they said about you and for all you know they may either live in another country or be dead. I’m pretty sure that your friend isn’t going around telling others the story of how twenty five years ago they insulted their best friend and hurt their feelings. So ask yourself; “who is the winner in this situation?” The answer is pretty evident . . . it’s not you!
As far as the neglectful, uncaring or abusive parent goes, that is probably one of the most difficult atrocities to forgive. Luckily, I was blessed with loving, caring parents and I can’t even begin to imagine the courage and self-love it must take to offer forgiveness for something like that. But conversely, I can’t imagine what it’s like to carry that much hatred around with you every day of your life either. I get it, I really do, and I know if it was me in that situation, I would most likely be filled with hate, rage and resentment too, but you must understand one thing.
“Holding on to anger, frustration and hatred is not going to change the past or the events that hurt you so badly. So, no matter how much you want revenge or for the people involved to be punished severely, it may never happen.” This, of course, means; you may carry that baggage with you your entire life, constantly opening it up and rehashing what’s inside and making yourself even more angry and upset. I cannot stress this enough, but; “The only person you are unfairly hurting and making absolutely miserable is yourself and you don’t deserve to have to hold onto that pain. You are worth so much more than that and you deserve the ability to love who you are regardless of what has happened to you in the past!”
I can’t imagine that it’s any easier forgiving someone for crimes like; murder, rape, manslaughter or torture, but the premise is the same. There is nothing you can do to change past events. Look, I’m not saying you have to build a loving relationship with that person or pay for an all-inclusive vacation for them or even like them in the least little bit. What I’m saying is; forgive them so you can free yourself from the pain and anguish, not them!”
Now some of you might be thinking to yourselves; “What does this guy know about hurt, pain and forgiveness that makes him an expert?” Well, the answer is; “I’m not an expert, not even close!” Yes, I have experienced hurt and pain before and yes, at the time I wanted revenge in the worst way. But, when I came to the realization that carrying around so much anger and hatred was only physically and emotionally, hurting me and not the other person, it became clear that I needed to just forgive them and move forward with my life.
If you are willing to let go of the anger and give forgiveness, here is an easy way to get yourself started. All you have to do is either say these words out loud or silently whisper them into your heart.
“I forgive (blank) for the hurt that you have caused me. Thank you for the lessons you have taught me. I acknowledge you, but I now choose to set you free so that I will be able to live a life of positive energy and thankfulness.”
Forgiveness will release you from the old role of the victim and cast you in the new role as the survivor. This new role will allow you to heal inside.
Now that you have the proper tools to assist you in the act of forgiveness, your first assignment is to forgive yourself. I bet you didn’t see that coming, huh? Yes, you read it correctly, I said yourself. How the hell are you going to forgive anyone else if you can’t forgive yourself? I don’t want you to ever think that it’s too late for you to practice self- forgiveness. The ramifications for not forgiving yourself for past mistakes and errors in judgment will cause you to have a blockage that makes you feel undeserving. You can’t manifest anything if you feel that you don’t deserve more than you’ve got at the present time. I will repeat this statement again: “The past has no power over the present!” The universe doesn’t give a damn what happened twenty years ago, it operates in the present moment. Forgiving will take time for you to learn and actually introduce it back into your daily life, but the rewards are monumental. The following is an exercise in healing.
How To Remove A Blockage And Heal
Find a quiet place to either lie down or sit upright in a chair keeping your spine straight to allow the flow of energy. Close your eyes.
Slowly, take a deep breath in through your nose and exhale slowly through your mouth. As you exhale, let go of your day. Imagine that you are purging all your stress, anxiety, anger, fear and worry from your entire body.
Look deep inside your body and visualize or feel the areas that appear dark, dense, blocked or filled with hate.
Imagine there is a string attached to the affected area and it’s keeping you attached to it. Just like it’s holding you prisoner. You may even give the string a color, texture or name.
Envision that you are holding a big pair of scissors, a razor blade, or any other mega sharp object. Now feel the exhilaration rush through you as you cut that stupid damn string and free yourself from whatever it was attached to.
Take a long deep breath in through your nose again and exhale slowly through your mouth. As you do, I want you to either say these words out loud or silently into your heart;
“I have cut you from my life and you are no longer a part of me. You must leave now and never return again!”
SMILE! Smile big and know that you have begun the process of healing. Open your eyes and give yourself a big loving hug. You are so worth it. Never forget that!
Taken from the book; “How To Apply The Law Of Attraction”
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